“And I finally found that life goes on without you, and my world still turns when you’re not around.” -Anberlin
A year ago I was a broken shell of a person. I felt sad, empty, and alone. The person I was closest to suddenly walked out of my life without reason or explanation. It hurt beyond words. I’d go through the motions of the day but felt distant from everything and as if there was nobody I could talk to. I just wanted to hide away from the world. 3 years wasted. I kept blaming myself even though I knew deep down I’d done nothing wrong. I began drinking. I’d take back roads home to avoid going through my hometown. Just whatever I could do to get it off my mind. Time was all it took. Lots of time… It hurt a little less each week and finally I started to smile again. I learned a lot from it once I was able to look past the pain. Probably the most important thing I walked away with is this: you should never let someone else define your happiness. It’s okay to allow them to contribute to it but don’t depend on them for it all. People will let you down no matter how close you are to them. It may not even be intentional sometimes but it’s inevitable. We’re human. We’re flawed. And we all mess up from time to time. It’s just going to happen. Keep a positive outlook on things, find what makes you happy and go with it. Eventually everything else will fall into place so simply don’t worry about it. Live in the now.
“We’re all just misguided ghosts; travelin’ endlessly.”
Sometimes I feel so small compared to the world. There are days I wish you just instantly knew where your place was instead of having to go jump in blind and hope for the best. But I guess that’s the adventure of it.
Get out and start a conversation with someone new. That person sitting next to you in class could become your next best friend. The person waiting in the line at the store in front of you could end up being your next significant other. But there won’t really be a possibility if you don’t ever rack up some courage and talk to them. Say hello or something. There’s about a 99% chance that they won’t bite you. However, if they do I’m sorry and you should probably put some peroxide on that. My point here is simple: don’t let shyness get in the way of meeting cool new people.
“Being grown up, isn’t half as fun as growing up. These are the best days of our lives. The only thing that matters is just following your heart, and eventually you’ll finally get it right.”
The Ataris have the right idea.
Sometimes I think if these are the best days of our lives then well hell… But nothing is really ever as bad as it seems. Every day each of us are going to face problems. It’s life. What matters is how you deal with it. You can let it overwhelm you or you can get up, fight back and make the most of everything. We all tend to focus on the negative and not the positive around us. I mean watch the news, they begin with a” Good morning World” and then proceed to tell us why it isn’t one with all the horrid things happing around us. Let’s break the cycle. I challenge all of you to get up, fight back, and start looking at the bright side of things.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about everything… I’ve decided that it’s okay to be selfish and live your life for you. Don’t spend it pleasing everyone else. Be you. That’ll be enough for someone. And you’ll be happier. Get out there, make some memories, and live it up. Most older peoples’ regrets aren’t actually the things they did, it’s the things they didn’t do while they had the chance. So what are you waiting for? Have at it.
“Whatever you are, be a good one.” – Abraham Lincoln
I basically live by this.